Thank you very much. I just hope it can be held on the weekend so everyone can see him from afar.

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Thanks.. i'm sure we will all be at our best.

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if i can make it up i will.

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I second this.

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Work has already granted me the days whenever I need them. Thank you for posting this, Seven.

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This may sound really really stupid and i know fursuits are definatly out of the question.. But what about a simple badge?

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I don't think even badges would be a good idea. Like bluedeer says below, I think any furry paraphernalia should not be worn. (As in, don't wear badges with furry characters drawn on it.)

I don't think it is customary to wear badges at a funeral, as I don't think Patrick's non-furry friends or family will be wearing them. :)

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I figured as much.. It wasn't so much for me as it was for my friend. She asked me and i went.. probably not but might as well ask!

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I believe fursuits would be very inappropriate, same with ears and tails. This is a funeral, not a furry convention. I would also discourage the wearing of any other furry paraphernalia (ears & tails, paws, etc). I don't think one tasteful, discreet badge just so people knew who you were would be bad, but badge trains would likewise be inappropriate.

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Agreed, though personally I don't think a furry character badge of any type would be appropriate at all.

There's always a time and place to say "Hey, I'm furry. Murry purry lol I'm a fox."

A funeral is not one of those places.

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When i made the comment about badges i was thinking a simple badge that you get from an actual convention to get into the events.. not a colorful one with your character on it or something.. just something that had your name on it.

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There will most likely be sticker name tags there, but I'd really imagine it'd be your real name they'd want displayed.

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If they have sticker badges, sure, use those. It's a better idea to leave the convention badges at home.

It's safe to assume there probably won't be any badges. None of the funerals/memorial services I've ever gone to ever had any. There's nothing wrong with a handshake and an introduction with your real name if anyone asks.

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I wish I could go. I got laid off work the week he died, and the money just isn't here for travel anymore...

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Seriously? I mean seriously? The fact this even has to be addressed. The fact that anyone would think it would be ok to even ask, let alone not know it’s inappropriate.

This is a funeral, a show of respect to Furp’s parents but most importantly to him. He was crazy on every day that ended in y, but he also knew when and what was appropriate and demonstrated it on several occasions.

This is not a con, this is not a party, and this is not a time to meet up with people you’ve never met before. I would hope that everyone who attends will show the respect that Furp deserves. The Irish wake will happen after, I’m sure for many, then will be appropriate for the ears and tails and other things that we Furp would be amused by, cause we all know the boy couldn’t stay serious for long.

We can all pretend we are adults for 1 day.

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Seriously? I mean seriously? The fact this even has to be addressed. The fact that anyone would think it would be ok to even ask, let alone not know it’s inappropriate.

Was thinking this same shit.

Before the entry even popped up, though, I admit, I wondered, "Oh shit...I wonder if someone is going to wear furry gear at this funeral." So I am kind of glad the entry popped up. But only because it would be embarrassing, for everyone in the room, if someone wore any of this gear. Any of it.

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As one who runs a furry convention, I can tell you from experience that you must never assume that everyone will know right off what is considered appropriate and what is not.

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After my more then few years in fandom, I'm aware. Doesn't mean I'm not gonna be pissed off about it.

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I'm certain someone will still wear some sort of gear, despite this entry. Someone will have "missed the memo", so to speak, and someone will do it. Heck, someone already posted something akin to "Furp visited me from the grave". *shrug*

And when it happens, it will be genuinely mortifying for those of us who aren't *completely* socially inept. Hopefully one of us will catch them before they enter the building, and persuasively advise against.

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Oh, if they show up, I guarantee that there will be at least a handful of us who will stop them at the door and tell them to come back when they can act like an adult.

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You too, huh? We were actually discussing it in my household that someone would do it.

Part of me is thinking, "At least they asked.
Another part is going, "When did you get the brain flash that this would be even halfway CLOSE to a good idea?"

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Dude, I'm *still* thinking someone will wear some sort of gear. Like they will have conveniently "missed the memo" posted here. And I will genuinely be embarrassed for all in the room, furry-dude or not, and will have to force myself NOT to approach his folks and apologize on behalf of whomever wore the gear.

I dunno, I just still really see this happening, and it mortifies the hell out of me.

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Will there be something for those who can't attend (if you are working or far off like overseas or something)? I'd be there in spirit just to honor Furp and his family by just taking a moment of silence.

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you can call the funeral home and they will be able to help you select flowers for the event, or im sure as i posted down below that you can more than likely send a card.

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I'd like to send a card.

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I plan to attend.

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I plan to be in attendance as well.

I hope it is not inappropriate for me to bring this up, but if no one had ideas for the wake, I was going to suggest the Safe House. It is a restaurant that was a favorite of Furp's, I've been there once and frankly, I think it would be a nice place to remember him in a spirit of frivolity.

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I love that place.

I thought Safe House was just a bar tho.

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hell or high water, I'll be there. Just need to know when, mi amigo.

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Thank you for this. For those of us that can't attend, is this the address to send cards to?

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This is the address for the funeral home, I'm sure if they had something such as "ATTN: REED FAMILY" on them, they would be able to get them to Henry and Lynne.

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There's a time and a place for everything.

There have been, and I'm sure there will be, wakes and memorials held in Furp's honor. Perhaps there will be memorial gatherings, impromptu or no, at conventions this year. For gatherings of furries, furry personas would certainly be in order.

For a regular funeral, there is something almost ceremonial about taking off the masks, using our given names, out of deep respect and thankfulness and honor for the grieving parents who brought Patrick to the world and to us.

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